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The Cure for Fear is Action

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“Now it’s the right time!”  Said no-one ever

Let’s face it, the right time will never come. Never will be the right moment to have a child, quit your job, invest in a company, or end that lousy relationship.

What stops us from taking those difficult steps? Fear. Fear that we’ll fail (and everything else that comes from failing).

If we could only have an assurance that everything is going to turn out well and that everyone will be happy, then we would take more risks. But then, that’s not taking a risk, that’s playing it safe!

We are a nation of people pleasers, trying to make everyone happy is impossible!

What is the solution then?

I’m not saying that you should quit your job right this moment, invest all of your money impulsively, break up with your partner after reading this, or drop everything you are doing to go climb the Everest!

What I’m suggesting is to take a good look at your fears and where they came from, look at what blocks you from being completely happy (guilt, responsibility, feeling not enough, loneliness, finances, etc) and do something about it. Start a vision board, connect with people, gather resources, research, study, seek help, do something towards your goal.

Fear can be paralyzing and change can be overwhelming. Take one step at a time, conquer small goals and keep moving forward. Don’t let doubts cloud your vision. Stay focused on the feeling of happiness you want  and pay attention to the opportunities as they present themselves. The cure for fear is action.

Life is too short to live it unfulfilled. Imagine 5, 10, 20 years from now, you’ll be glad that you took a risk and are living life to the fullest.

The time is now!

 

 

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Seven Habits of Highly Conscious Parents

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OHM PlayHighly conscious parents are those continuously developing their awareness and consciousness. They cultivate attitudes and principles that help them raise their children consciously. The following habits of highly conscious parents require practice and awareness. The more you practice these habits the deeper your relationship with your kids grows.

1. Highly Conscious Parents Review the Past Only To Learn

Highly conscious parents make peace with their past. They do not blame or hold on to their past to justify their present actions. They look at the way their own caretakers communicated, discard what doesn’t work and keep what works.

2. Highly Conscious Parents Look at Themselves in the Mirror

Highly conscious parents understand that their child’s behavior is, a lot of the time, a reflection of their own behaviors and attitudes. They check themselves to see if they are behaving in a similar manner and they make corrections to themselves first.

3. Highly Conscious Parents Choose What to Transfer

Highly conscious parents understand the power of the emotional and intellectual transference and work on themselves first to avoid transferring faulty beliefs and habits.

4. Highly Conscious Parents Live Their Own Life

Highly conscious parents avoid living vicariously off their children. They mentor their children by demonstrating how to live in awareness, consciousness and happiness.

5. Highly Conscious Parents Listen Attentively

Highly conscious parents understand that they do not know it all and that the generations to come have a fresh perspective that can prove valuable in many situations. They listen to their children attentively and practice seeing life from their eyes.

6. Highly Conscious Parents Know That Love Conquers All

Highly conscious parents manage their frustrations by focusing on their love for their children. They also understand that self-love is the best medicine to cure doubts and fear and they inspire their children to do the same.

7. Highly Conscious Parents Dream Together

Highly conscious parents sit with their children and create a vision for their future. They integrate their children into the manifestation of their dreams and enjoy the process of creation. The best way to consciously raise a child is to be aware and conscious of your own personal growth. You are your children’s mentor and guide. When you work on yourself, you transfer your awareness to your children and inspire them to grow as well.

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