Why is love the best medicine?

IMG_0594What is the opposite of love?  Fear.

In countless medical articles researchers have found correlations between stress and dis-eases. Stress, in my opinion comes from fear. When we feel afraid our body goes into fight or flight mode and begins the process of getting back to homeostasis by activating entire systems of recovery. A body in a constant state of stress is a body that runs out of resources to get back in balance and becomes vulnerable to viruses and illnesses.

Can we return to health with just love? Sounds too simple to be true, right?

Western medicine is excellent in treating symptoms of illnesses, fixing problems and attending emergencies; it looks at a set of symptoms and finds the medication or treatment to treat that cluster of symptoms. Unfortunately, people are unique and have their own individual reactions, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually that make the treatment too general and sometimes ineffective.

Chinese medicine believes in treating each person as a unique world of energy (chi), structures, hormones, cells and neurotransmitters and so on, that react in a very individual manner to the environment. Chinese medicine focuses on preventing diseases by activating the body self-healing mechanism and finding homeostasis. Chinese medicine helps find the root of the disease rather than only treating the illness and symptoms. They see illness as the expression of something deeper to be investigated and treated naturally.

I am not advocating to stop using the help of western medicine. I am advocating to look at the root cause of the illness, understand how it started and empower ourselves to prevent and heal diseases.

What is the role of love and fear in all of this? In my opinion, when we operate from love, we feel at ease, we trust and we go about life in a state of appreciation. When we operate from fear, we engage in stress, distrust, anger or sadness, anxiety or depression, or we simply compensate from stress with behaviors or habits that are less than healthy. When we live in fear we create dis-ease, when we live in love we live in ease.

To live in love is to forgive, to let go, to surrender, to trust, to appreciate, to give, to be of service and to act from inspiration. To get to this level of experience one must accept suffering without judgment or resistance. One must honor all of the emotions and give them a proper voice. One must learn to love oneself with all the faults and mistakes as well as the gifts and successes.

In short, love is the best medicine, especially loving oneself.

There is so much more I can say about this. If you want help on how to love yourself, I can help you. Send me an email to schedule a session with me.

In love,




The Cure for Fear is Action

“Now it’s the right time!”  Said no-one ever

Let’s face it, the right time will never come. Never will be the right moment to have a child, quit your job, invest in a company, or end that lousy relationship.

What stops us from taking those difficult steps? Fear. Fear that we’ll fail (and everything else that comes from failing).

If we could only have an assurance that everything is going to turn out well and that everyone will be happy, then we would take more risks. But then, that’s not taking a risk, that’s playing it safe!

We are a nation of people pleasers, trying to make everyone happy is impossible!

What is the solution then?

I’m not saying that you should quit your job right this moment, invest all of your money impulsively, break up with your partner after reading this, or drop everything you are doing to go climb the Everest!

What I’m suggesting is to take a good look at your fears and where they came from, look at what blocks you from being completely happy (guilt, responsibility, feeling not enough, loneliness, finances, etc) and do something about it. Start a vision board, connect with people, gather resources, research, study, seek help, do something towards your goal.

Fear can be paralyzing and change can be overwhelming. Take one step at a time, conquer small goals and keep moving forward. Don’t let doubts cloud your vision. Stay focused on the feeling of happiness you want  and pay attention to the opportunities as they present themselves. The cure for fear is action.

Life is too short to live it unfulfilled. Imagine 5, 10, 20 years from now, you’ll be glad that you took a risk and are living life to the fullest.

The time is now!