How many times have you used affirmations that didn’t worked? Want to know why? Read on.
What are affirmations?
Affirmations are sentences of encouragement that are generally repeated to assert a positive belief. Examples are, “I love and approve of myself”, “I am amazing” or “I am healthy and happy”.
Imagine a situation in your life that you want to change. Then imagine saying some affirmations that say the opposite of what you are experiencing. For example, you may be feeling depressed and may start saying affirmations like, “I am a happy person”, “I love my situation exactly as it is” or something like that. Do you think that repeating these sentences over and over it is really going to get you to feel better? (or change whatever you want to change?). It sounds more like you are lying to yourself.
I’m going to tell you the number one reason why affirmations don’t work and how to change that.
Affirmations without the appropriate feelings are useless.
It’s not exactly that affirmations don’t work, it’s how they are applied that renders them useless. When you say an affirmation that feels far from the truth, what you are actually doing is reinforcing what you don’t want or have. Let’s say you are in need of money and begin saying an affirmation like,
“I have $10,000 in my bank account now”.
Feel into that. Does it feel true? Does it feel realistic? Maybe it does for you but for the majority of people it sounds too far fetched, surrealistic. Yet some people keep doing them, like a mantra or a prayer, even when it doesn’t feel right in the hopes that if they say it enough times, maybe it’ll manifest.
What you really need to do is change the wording to match the desired feeling. Words carry power according to the emotion they elicit. If I said, “I have $10,000 in my bank account now” and it does not resonate as truth, it is not going to work. If I change it to something more credible such as, “In the past, I have been able to manifest money coming into my life and I believe I can make it happen again” or “I don’t know how but I believe that everything is going to be OK, I can relax” or “Even though I do not know at this moment what to do, I will keep my hopes up and my eyes open for clues” or “Money is already there, all I have to do is align with it” these affirmations may sound more credible and the goal more achievable, therefore releasing some of the stress and changing your mood. When you change your mood and emotions, you change your vibration.
What is vibration?
Vibration is the feeling you get when you enter a room and you feel immediately at home or immediately awkward. Perhaps you may have felt a “weird vibe” or a “cool vibe”, you may have connected with someone like you’ve known them for a long time or rejected someone without knowing them because they give you the hibijibbies. Vibration is the energy you perceive around people or situations. Your feelings tell you what kind of vibe it is.
When you are trying to manifest a desired outcome, you need to be in the same vibe as the outcome you want. It’s like when you are going to talk to someone important, you rehearse in front of a mirror and imagine what the other person will say. You get yourself in the mood, either serious, relaxed, happy or stressed (your choice). Your vibration will attract or reject the desired outcome.
How to make affirmations work?
Affirmations will work when you change their vibration. If the affirmation you are repeating does not have a good vibe for you or does not feel good, change it to something that feels more realistic and achievable. Take one step at a time. Change the wording of your affirmation until you can feel it in your body. The wording that resonates best and makes you feel more at ease is the one you want to use.
The purpose of affirmations is to shift your negative beliefs. If you are repeating affirmations that do not resonate with you, nothing is going to change. Practice writing different affirmations until you find the ones that resonate with you best.
I believe in you. You’ve got this.